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The plan was for an indoor wedding, this being the middle of February.

 

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But it was sixty degrees on Friday, with more of the same predicted for Saturday.

 

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So we asked the bride, would you like to get married in the garden?

 

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Her answer was…

 

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“Yes!!!”

 

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There was lots of conversation in the Library, along with cocktails and hors d’oeuvres.

 

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Dinner and dancing was in the Ballroom.

 

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A beautiful cake!

Venue: Chase Court
Caterer: Zeffert & Gold Catering
Florist: Radebaugh Florist & Greenhouses
Officiant: William Duffy
Entertainment: DJ Brian Castagnetti
Photography: Artful Weddings
Cake: Yia Yia’s Bakery

—David

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Guys, including fathers, like to be in control. Especially if they’re not. If your father is in control of your wedding, call me. You’ll be the first. In all other cases, any way that you can make your father feel, or even better, THINK that he has some control over this sometimes turbulent multi-month planning process is worth doing.

Fathers (and may I say, men in general) like lots of warnings vis-a-vis change. Your getting married is a change. Your asking him to write one or more checks for many, and sometimes tens of, thousands of dollars is big change.

Let me say here that your wedding doesn’t have to cost a bagillion dollars, nor does it have to be a stress factory. It may not even involve any of your parent’s money. In any case, there are things that may come up that, with early action on your part, can be a pleasure rather than a stressor.

Being a man of father-of-the-bride age, I feel for these guys.

Most fathers want to do everything they possibly can for their daughters, including supporting and being a part of their wedding. While they may not have a lot of interest in the wedding planning per se, knowing that they’re an important part of the whole, even if that just means being apprised of goings-on on a timely basis, can make a world of difference.

Here are some things you can do to keep your father in the loop:

1. The sooner your father knows about your engagement, the better. You get double bonus points if your sweetheart asks him for your hand in marriage. Fathers who think they’re the last in the family (or the world) to know, generally aren’t happy. This is especially true if you’re launching right into the planning process, which in many cases will involve a significant amount of his hard-earned money.

2. If you would like your father to walk you down the aisle, ask him. This is the one moment in his life that, besides your birth, he will cherish forever. It’s a huge honor. Ask him out loud, clearly and directly, so he can say “yes” out loud. It will mean a lot to him, and probably to you, too. Do it with some ceremony, with family and friends and people who matter present, and do it soon. There will be tears, and it will be wonderful. Don’t forget to say, “thank you”. He’ll appreciate it.

Next Time: The Money Discussion

—David

 

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A warm wedding on a cold winter’s night! The lights were up for the ceremony, but they were turned down low for the reception, as you’ll see below.

 

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Zeffert & Gold Catering set a delightful “U”-shaped table arrangement for 60 guests, with dancing in the middle!

 

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Mixed green salad with walnuts and cranberries, and butternut squash soup!

Venue: Chase Court
Caterer: Zeffert & Gold Catering
Flowers: Studio in Bloom
Officiant: The Rev. Mary E. Powers
Photography: Twist Photography (Images above by Chase Court.)
DJ: Absolute Entertainment
Cake: Sugarbakers Cakes

—David

 

  • Rev. Mary e. Powers - Chase Court was beautiful and warm on a cold winter’s eve! The ceremony was perfect, from the adorable flower girls to the purple ribbon of the Tying of the Knot! Wonderful memories!

  • Kristina - Chase Court was the perfect venue for our small winter wedding. It has old world charm, beautiful architecture, and David was wonderful to work with. The room came out exactly how I imagined it to be and we are so grateful to Chase court and our vendors for making our wedding day magical!!

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Sherry…

 

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…and Lauren, with her dad.

 

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They said their vows in front of the fireplace.

 

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Married!

 

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Up to the Bride’s Room for a little alone time before the reception.

 

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The Ballroom was set for 60 guests.

 

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Long tables in a “U” configuration. Elegant, simple, and easy to decorate!

 

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One of the advantage of this seating configuration is the reach—you can talk to lots of people!

Venue: Chase Court
Catering: The Pantry Fine Cuisine Catering
Photography: Jason Putsché Photography (Images above by Chase Court.)
Flowers: Radebaugh Florist
DJ: Lasting Impressions
Cake: Sugarbakers Cakes
Officiant: Alyson Shirk

—David

 

  • Christine Barker - David such simplistic elegance!! You have such a wonderful venue!

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January of 2014 started with several inches of snow at Chase Court, setting the stage for the wedding ceremony of Chris and Andrea’s dreams!

 

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Those are Game of Thrones medallions on Andrea’s muff and Chris’ jacket.

 

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The ballroom was warm and the salads were ready!

 

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Venue: Chase Court
Catering: Rouge Fine Catering
Officiant: Heather Saul
Photography: Roman Grinev Photography (Images above by Chase Court.)
DJ: Friendly Entertainment
Cake: Sugarbakers Cakes

—David